I'm Blue

So, I'm 70% Blue. Many people I know are blue. Dr. Hartman refers to Blue as "people in this world who are just good: good-hearted, of good conscience, good citizens." However, all this "goodness" can drive other colors mad. While blues are committed and loyal (a Blue will never forget a birthday) (e.g., I still remember most of my friend's phone numbers from childhood, but can I pick up a phone now? No, besides now all the numbers are on speed-dial and I don't have to remember them.)

Blues are perfectionists. We are highly critical of ourselves and others. "They have such unrealistic expectations that they struggle to satisfy themselves or find satisfaction in others' performances."

"Blues want others to be like them. They don't necessarily say what they want, but magically believe that everyone thinks the way they do and will produce the same results." Yeah, that doesn't work out so much. Blues don't delegate well (true). Blues are highly intuitive and highly opinionated (really?!). They are also emotional, moody, and can be guilted into almost anything. (hmmm, see how blue I am!) Blues are insecure & self-righteous.

As I mentioned with Red, there are good and bad things about each color.

The strengths of Blues ... As an individual: Blue sees life as a serious endeavor. Appreciates beauty & detail. Stable & dependable (sounds like a really old & ugly car). Sincere and emotionally deep. Analytically oriented (concerned with why one behaves as s/he does) - hence my fascination with everyone's "color". As a committed companion: gives the relationship priority over other activities. Values intimacy and places high priority over it. Considers spouse first in decision making. Responsible for making ongoing contribution to relationship.

The not-so-nice side of a Blue:

As an individual: Highly emotional. Smug & self-righteous. Controlling and/or envious of others' success when too easily obtained. Perfectionists. Verbally self-abusive. As a communicator: has strong opinions on many issues. Tends to lecture & overdiscuss issues. Rigid with principles and unwilling to negotiate. Strong expectations for others to be sensitive and deep. Expects others to read her mind and know her feelings. As a committed companion: demands affection & intimacy. Demands time and attention of partner. Highly manipulative in seeking support or understanding. Suspicious of others' motives. Unforgiving. Clingy.

Here's what you should NOT do when dealing with a Blue:

1. Make them feel guilty. (we can do this all by ourselves)
2. Be rude or abrupt. (That's just rude).
3. Promote too much change.
4. Expect spontaneity
5. Abandon them.
6. Expect them to bounce back easily or quickly from depression.
7. Demand perfection (We already do that)
8. Push them too quickly into making decisions.
9. Expect them to forgive quickly.
10. Demand immediate action or quick verbal bantering. (see no fighting!)

People who appear Blue:
Steven Spielberg
Walt Disney
Oprah Winfrey
Diane Sawyer
Harrison Ford
Faith Hill
Brad Pitt
Kate Winslet
Elton John
Renee Zellweger
Prince William
Beyonce Knowles
Matt Damon