Saturday, March 19, 2011

A fine line

I wonder what the line is in trying to be a supportive parent and a realist. "Sweet Pea" had a complaint about her mother that while she was growing up she had big dreams -- a singer, dancer, home decorator, and many other things. While some were obviously a huge stretch but others I believe that if that was what she wanted she could have obtained, but I tend to believe if a person works hard enough one way or another everything eventually works out.

I understand that "Sweet Pea's" mother was trying to protect her from disappointment, but at the same time couldn't be a little supportive with the dreams that could potentially be obtainable?

If any one was to support your ideas shouldn't it be your own mother? It's hard to be confident in yourself and abilities when the people who should support you most, don't. Where does a parent draw the line?

1 comment:

BeCute2 said...

I draw the line with my checkbook. I tell the kids they get one extra activity. But my oldest flips from one thing to another so she's kinda good at several things but not super at anything. So the next ones I've been a little more strict. But good point a mother should support and it's a fine line between dreams and reality.

Books read in 2009

  • The Great and Terrible, Vol 6 (Clear as the Moon)
  • The Great and Terrible, Vol 5 (From the End of Heaven)
  • The Great and Terrible, Vol 4 (Fury and Light)
  • The Great and Terrible, Vol 3 (The Second Sun)
  • The Great and Terrible, Vol 2 (Where Angels Fall)
  • The Great and Terrible, Vol 1 (The Brothers)
  • A Free Life by Ha Jin
  • The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold

Favorite Thoughts

"Our values develop our character & our character creates our destiny. When we're out of touch with our values, we are blown like autumn leaves, caught up in mindless routines...but when we affirm our guiding values, our lives are inspired by our deepest beliefs." ~Diane Dreher, Ph.D. Your Personal Renaissance

"Nothing is a waste of time." ~Rodin

"To know life is to love many things." ~Vincent Van Gogh

"...when pain is over, the remembrance of it often becomes a pleasure. One does not love a place the less for having suffered in it, unless it has all been suffering..." A. Elliot in Persuasion by J. Austen